Attraction – My little social experiment

A little over two weeks ago I conducted a little experiment on my Facebook page. As with most of my posts there was a method to my madness. I apologise in advanced for not clearly informing people of my social experiment but I wanted to get accurate results. I wanted honesty and honesty is what I got, well to a certain degree.

Firstly I must point out what exactly I am blabbering on about. So on the 9th of August 2017 at 19.30 GMT I typed the following post on my Facebook page and clicked publish.

It read: “I like gifs a little too much and seeing as we had fun yesterday with them let’s try something different. So dish the dirt who is your biggest celeb/famous person crush? I know we all have that secret “if I could be trapped on a desert island with” fantasy but who gives you the heart flutters??? Ok so ill get the ball rolling on this one …

Ps there is absolutely no judgment here. What you may like could be completely different to another person. Variety is the spice of life x”.

Within a minute the replies started to come in thick and fast. These are the final results as of  9.00 am on the 24th of August:

The results

There are a few interesting points that I discovered in which I will discuss below. This is purely a mere observation and not solid fact but at the same time poses an interesting question. Firstly we must look at the very definition of attraction (as per Merriam Webster):

Definition of attraction:

  1. a) the act, process, or power of attracting
 : b) personal charm
  2. the action or power of drawing forth a response : an attractive quality
  3. a force acting mutually between particles of matter, tending to draw them together, and resisting their separation
  4. something that attracts or is intended to attract people by appealing to their desires and tastes

Attraction is subjective. What one person finds attractive may not ring true to another. The whole process of attraction being something inbuilt into all of us. How do you put into words the butterflies you get in your stomach when you see a certain someone? Why do some people like blondes whereas others like brunettes? Science explains a certain amount i.e. a particular type of physical trait you favour in a person but there is also a grey area that science has no answers for. Attractiveness is one of those areas that really interests me. I have always enjoyed people watching in particular observing couples and wondering what their personal getting together story was and what attracted them to each other in the first place. I suppose it is my inner romantic coming out. I love to hear a good love story. Human behaviour fascinates me especially areas where science cannot fully explain. Of course scientifically speaking the principle of who we are attracted to can be evolutionary and genetically based i.e. Science states we look for a mate with similar characteristics to ourselves and that humans in general are more attracted to people who have symmetrical features. What excites me is that yes science can explain why we might be physically attracted to someone but you and I both know attraction lies much deeper than physical looks. What I have learnt as I have gotten older is the difference between attractiveness and beauty.

Beauty is for the most part objective. Physical beauty on the other hand is individual to people but not without outside influence. We all have a “type” which can be physically or personality based. There is a lot of outside influences that try mould the very definition of beauty and prey on people’s vulnerabilities. Unfortunately this is the world we live in, an image obsessed society. There is an obsession with one perfect look that defines beauty obviously linked to the golden ratio. For those of you that don’t know, the golden ratio is a mathematical formula used to define proportions. It is very hard to explain and I don’t fancy giving you a science or maths lesson but it is said that human beauty (facial) is defined by this ratio. A saying in which I always live by is that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”.

The key discoveries I made in conducting my little social experiment was that out of my 2227 predominantly female based Facebook following, 25 females responded with pictures of males. I would be interested in discovering the reasons why the male following or any of my LGBTQ+ followers chose not to comment. If any of you are reading this post and would like to pm me please do. For example, do you not feel confident in expressing your answer out of fear? Or are you unsure if my blog would support different cultural, racial or sexual backgrounds? I am genuinely incredibly interested and the most important thing i would like to point out is that I strongly believe in supporting, accepting and involving everyone regardless of their beliefs, backgrounds and sexuality. I believe variety is the spice of life. If we all looked and acted the same the world would be a boring place.

A selection of the chosen males

Another interesting observation I noted was (for the people who did comment) the choices that were made. Unconventional beauty far outweighed conventional beauty. People embraced unique traits like facial hair, facial features not being entirely symmetrical and embraced different races. They also looked past a persons physical appearance commenting on their personality and even voice or what I like to call hidden depths. It has filled me with a sense of relief in that sense that people make up their own minds and aren’t entirely influenced by the media or beauty/fashion industries. Even the world of beauty and fashion have become obscured due to the use of photo-shopping and other editing software. It can be hard to differentiate between real and fake nowadays. This doesn’t solely lay with professionals but on much wider, easily assessable levels. You don’t have to go far to see the many filter options available on the likes of Snapchat and Instagram. My question to you is, has the world gone a bit mad, are we loosing touch with reality? Are we teaching the younger generations incorrect values? Are they becoming more dictated to by the media? I would love to hear your thoughts below.



  1. 25th August 2017 / 4:57 PM

    You shneaky shnake Glad I said Benedict Cumberbatch in the Facebook comments now. I do tend to go for substance over style (although I do find him physically attractive) but more sensitive, sensible and mature guys are hard to come by for the everyday guy and gal. Certainly for people like myself in their 20’s. Anyone else feel like this?

    • apalershadeofbeauty
      25th August 2017 / 5:37 PM

      Lol . To be honest it’s been quite a while since I’ve been dating. I met kev when I was 21 and still in university. Having said that the whole dating game has really changed hasn’t it? The whole online dating thing took off after we got together. It must be harder to meet people as you are just looking at a picture rather than grasping someone’s personality. My brother met his girlfriend online though and they are still going strong so it does work. I think, well I hope as people get older they become more sensible and mature although there are exceptions lol. I think the main thing is to take a chance on someone. I find after the initial physical attraction you fall more and more for someone the more you get to know them. The more you discover about them and the couple quirks you develop. There are a lot of goodies out there, I am sure of it. Plus there’s nothing wrong with Benedict. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That’s what I really like, people are attracted to eachother in so many ways. What appeals to someone may not necessarily appeal to another.

I would love to hear what you think by commenting below.